#OurKidsMatter

Pain, sorrow, tears, suffering, death, terrorism, hate, trauma. When we hear these words, negative images encircle our thoughts. Our minds become saddened and the last group of people you think about are "children". Children usually have a certain "joy" in their spirits.

However, what happens when the moment comes that we have explain to our kids about the occurrences of hate that are going on around the world? What happens when there isn't any joy in their spirits?

In the United States, there have been various acts of hate in the last few years and they seem to be growing in number. It's imperative for us, as a family, to help children feel like they have someone to turn to. 

Disaster Child Care, a ministry of the Church of the Brethren, gives us some ways of "Helping Children Cope". Here are just some of the ones they suggested: 

(Explanation paraphrased)

1. Reassuring Children- "You are not the cause of the bad events that are happening in the world. These ugly feelings and hate are not directed towards you."

2. Acknowledge Feelings- "I understand your fear and your anger. We are also scared and angry. ____ and _____ can be dangerous, but do not dwell on the fear, I will be here with you. ::::offer extra hugs::::"

3. Encourage Expression- "Tell me what you see and hear about what's happening. How does it make you feel?"

4. Monitor TV Viewing

5. Be Honest- "I have done my research and this is what's happening in the world... Do you have any questions?"

6. Let Faith be a Source of Strength- "Asking questions about how God allowed this to happen is normal. However, I assure you that even though we do not understand everything at the moment, one we will. This is a time where we need to pray to God for those hurting, as well as for our own safety. Would you like to pray with me now?"

These are just 6 of the several tips that this brochure offers to help children deal with everything that is happening. For a a copy of their brochure with more in depth information on this matter, please feel free to contact us at childrensministries@nadadventist.org

Over the next few weeks, we want to make resources available to you in order to help you deal with trauma and crisis.